All I wanted was a nice income and a respectable station in life. For me, law was a safe career choice, not a passion. My only concern was that as a creative, emotive, right-brain type, I would not be able to make my mind do whatever it is that lawyer minds do to think like lawyers. But an old and slightly intoxicated lawyer I met at a Mall told me that the real danger was that once you start thinking like a lawyer it becomes difficult to think any other way. Thinking like a lawyer demands thinking within the confines of inductive and deductive forms of reasoning. With a few tips from experts well versed in court debates, you too can handle your arguments with the finesse of a true professional — even when you’re on the losing side. 1. Question Everything and Everyone, Even Yourself A good lawyer never makes assumptions. He asks questions to find the facts of his case and casts doubt on everything, including his own stance on an issue. It might sound childish but you should constantly ask, “Why?” Why does this person believe what they do? Why is my belief justified? If you’re inquisitive enough, the root of the flaws in your opponent’s argument will come to light. 2. Open Your Ears Before You Open Your Mouth “Listen to what the other side is saying and don’t just tune them out,” lawyers and litigator of 25 years Okeke said. One of the worst betrayals of your own logic is to close yourself off to others’ opinions. “Most people are so focused on what they’re going to say that they don’t listen,” Okeke explained. Crush your sense of ego into a tiny ball and toss it away — you’re better off without it, because no one’s right all of the time. 3. Come Prepared If you show up to court without your briefcase full of research, you’re bound to lose. Likewise, if you start up an argument and have no legitimate facts to back up your claim, you’ll end up looking like an amateur. 4. Try On Their Business Shoes “A good lawyer is one who can see both sides of an argument,” administrative lawyer James said. Open-mindedness can solve your conflict with your roommate too. Lawyers must argue for their clients whether they agree with them or not. Being able to competently argue for both sides requires a deep understanding of the other person’s position; and even if you end up agreeing to disagree, an expression of empathy for the other side’s perspective can save you and your roommate’s relationship. 5. Trump Your Emotions with Reason Lawyers can’t become emotionally attached to every case. They must rely on logic and reason to convince the other side. In any heated argument, instead of focusing on your anger, stay calm and use your head. Stick to the facts and if you’re correct, you’ll come out on top. If you’re wrong, at least you’ll be the better person for not resorting to vitriol. 6. Don’t Negotiate If You Have Nothing to Offer A grade is only negotiable if you’re right, Okeke said. If you know you don’t deserve the grade, don’t beg your professor for mercy on the last day of the semester — you’re wasting both your time and his. If, however, you have a valid reason for why you’re missing points, don’t hesitate to state your case. 7. Avoid the Straw Man One of the most common fallacies in argument, making a “straw man” is when you inaccurately represent your opponent’s point. By refuting the straw man you can create the illusion that you’re right, even if you’re not. But beware, if you twist your friend’s words, she’ll have even more disdain for you than before. 8. Use Their Strength Against Them “Magic is a sleight of hand, trying to distract someone from the essence of the argument… Judo is where you take the other’s side strength and make it yours,” lawyer and professor of media ethics Jim Wagstaffe said. This technique is only possible if you’re actively listening to the opposing claim. Find what seems to be its strong point, and use your critical analysis to turn it into your own weapon. 9. Don’t Be a Sore Loser Beating yourself up over a botched debate won’t get you anywhere. “Lawyers have to learn how to lose. You’re going to struggle. You’re going to go home upset that you haven’t achieved everything you want,” Wagstaffe said. Use the loss as a launching pad to lead you on to greater successes. 10. Slow It Down Debate isn’t a race. Young lawyers dealing with anxiety tend to rush to the end of their arguments. Try to speak slowly, enunciate your words, and solidly hit each of your points — you’ll appear more confident and your words will have more sway. And who knows, a dramatic pause placed just in the right place might swing the audience in your favor. 11. Skip the, uh, Fillers Speaking of bad speech habits, nothing destroys your credibility like a handful of those pesky linguistic fillers: “uh,” “um,” “like,” “y’know.” One way to eliminate the behavior is to consciously replace those fillers with silence. It’ll take a bit of practice, but pausing to collect your words will make you seem more thoughtful, confident and composed. 12. Keep It Simple Students may believe that the more layers and complexities in the argument, the stronger the claim. Ironically, it’s the other way around. It’s more difficult for an audience to process an argument bogged down with fluff and miscellaneous information, and as a result they’re less likely to take you seriously. 13. Pick Your Battles Even if your argument is sound, you won’t always be able to convince the other party. Many people are so deeply ingrained into their belief systems that no amount of debate will uproot their ideals. State your claim and why you disagree. Then end it there. Save yourself the frustration. 14. Establish Common Ground If you’re still determined to change a stubborn person’s mind, the first step is paving common ground between your two arguments. “A lot of people are resistant to changing their opinions because they don’t feel heard,” corporate litigator Catherine said. “If you truly listen to them and understand where they’re coming from, then you can find a point of common ground.” Once you reach a consensus, dealing with conflict then becomes a lot easier. 15. Speak Sparingly “Sometimes lawyers will talk too much when they could have won an argument, and they talk themselves into a loss,” Catherine said. Speaking over your opponent so they’re unable to be heard is called a heckler’s veto. While it’s marginally effective at stifling others’ ideas for a short period of time, it’s a sloppy and unprofessional way of handling a debate — and it certainly doesn’t fly in a court of law.]]>